WHEN WILL MY GRIEF END?

Grief is a highly individual process, and there is no set timeline for when it will end. It's important to remember that grief doesn't have a fixed endpoint; rather, it evolves and changes over time. You may always carry some form of grief, but it typically becomes more manageable as you learn to adapt to life without the person or thing you've lost. Be patient with yourself and seek support from loved ones or a professional if needed.

HOW LONG IS A NORMAL AMOUNT OF TIME TO GRIEVE?

There is no "normal" duration for grief, as it varies widely from person to person. Some people may experience acute grief for a few months, while others might take years to come to terms with their loss. What's important is not how long you grieve, but how you cope with it and work through the emotions in a healthy way.

IS IT NORMAL TO FEEL GRIEF BEFORE SOMEONE WHO IS TERMINAL DIES?

Yes, it is entirely normal to experience anticipatory grief when you know someone is terminally ill. Anticipatory grief allows you to process your emotions and begin to prepare for the eventual loss. It's a natural response to the impending separation and can help you cherish the time you have left with your person.

IS IT NORMAL TO GRIEVE AFTER A PET DIES?

Absolutely, it's very normal to grieve the loss of a beloved pet. Pets often become cherished members of our families, and their death can evoke profound grief. Allow yourself to mourn and remember the joy and companionship your pet brought into your life.

I FEEL LIKE MY GRIEF IS DEBILITATING AND I CAN’T STOP CRYING. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

It's okay to grieve deeply, and crying is a natural part of the grieving process. While you are grieving, you might consider wearing sunglasses or carrying some tissues with you. The point is: it’s still a good idea and go outside, even if it’s in small amounts at first. If you're finding it challenging to engage in your usual activities in the long-term, consider reaching out to a professional who specialises in grief. They can help you navigate your emotions and provide strategies for gradually reintegrating into your daily life.

HOW DO I AVOID SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTS WHILE GRIEVING?

During the grieving process, it's essential to prioritise self-care and allow yourself the time and space needed to heal. Consider informing close friends and family about your need for solitude. Explain that it's not personal, but a part of your healing process. You can also practice setting boundaries and self-care: prioritising nourishing activities while help you cope with grief while politely declining invitiations and letting people know you need some alone time. When you feel ready, you can gradually re-engage socially and choose smaller, supportive gatherings to ease back into social life.

WHAT’S THE BEST WAY FOR ME TO GET THROUGH MY GRIEF?

Do your best to find nourishing activities and stick with a routine where you go back to the basics: getting enough sleep and rest, going outside, doing movement and eating healthy foods. It is also a good idea to regulate what you are consuming during this time; for example, it may be appropriate to regulate how much screen time, news and social media you are taking in, in addition to non-prescribed substances, chaotic environments or even relationships that don’t feel gentle and supportive. Taking baby steps is the key, and celebrating the small “wins” (i.e. taking a 5 minute walk outside after spending 3 days inside) reinforces a supportive reintroduction back into life.

A powerful way to navigate grief is by seeking support. Talk to friends, family, or a professional who can provide guidance and a safe space to express your feelings. Additionally, consider joining a support group for people experiencing similar losses, and do your best to maintain self-care routines that promote physical and emotional well-being.

WHAT IS COMPLEX, COMPLICATED AND AMBIGUOUS GRIEF?

Complex grief typically refers to intense, prolonged grief that may be complicated by factors such as a troubled relationship with the deceased or unresolved feelings.
Complicated grief is characterised by prolonged and intense symptoms that interfere with daily life, making it difficult to adjust to the loss. It often requires professional intervention.
Ambiguous grief occurs when there is uncertainty surrounding the loss, such as in cases of missing persons or situations where the body is never found. It can be challenging to process because there's no clear closure.

HOW DO I FIND CLOSURE WITH MY GRIEF AND HONOUR WHAT/WHO HAS BEEN LOST?

Closure in grief can be achieved in different ways for different people. Some find it helpful to create a memorial, engage in a meaningful ritual, or volunteer in memory of their loved one. Ultimately, closure may come when you've processed your emotions and accepted the reality of the loss.

I HAVE BEEN CHALLENGED SINCE COVID-19 AND CAN’T SEEM TO GET BACK TO NORMAL. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

The COVID-19 pandemic has brought challenges and losses on a collective scale, which has impacted many people on an individual level but also on, perhaps, a larger scale than many may be used to. If you're struggling to return to a sense of normalcy, it's essential to prioritise self-care, seek professional help if needed and connect with support networks. Consider therapy or counseling to address the emotional toll, and remember that healing takes time. Be patient with yourself as you navigate your journey.

I FEEL ALONE IN MY PAIN. NO ONE AROUND ME UNDERSTANDS WHAT I’M GOING THROUGH. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

It's entirely normal to feel this way, and it's something many people go through. While your friends may have good intentions, those who haven't personally faced loss may find it challenging to fully understand your feelings. I recommend considering participation in a bereavement or grief therapy group. Although every loss is distinct, you might discover solace and a sense of community among those who have undergone similar pain. Alternatively, you can engage in conversations with a professional who specialises in helping individuals navigate their emotions during difficult times.